虐到极致 or my very unpopular opinion on tteom

Usually I don't write reviews but I really wanted to express my critism on a very hyped series like this. I really thought I'd like till the end of the moon, I like tragedy, hard and dark stories and while enemies to lovers isn't my favourite I do like it. I tried really hard but I just couldn't like till the end of the moon.
You might be wondering about my rating being 7.5, but that's because I tend to give high ratings, because I think in every work was put hard work and that there's barely any series or movie that would deserve zero or one star(s).
My problem with till the end of the moon is at first place YXW and TTJs relationship, and by that I only mean the mortal life part. Many people liked it, but I just felt it really wasn't it and really really toxic. Not even because YXW wanted to kill TTJ or how TTJ did some harmful things to YXW. It's how their entire relationship was built on primary abuse. Of course we know the YXW who treated TTJ kindly was actually LSS, but TTJ doesn't and that's the problem. Yes, he's messed up, obsessed or whatever else but a relationship can never be healthy or function properly if there was primarily abuse, and the abuser didn't at least redeem themself. Of course LSS is not to blame and of course TTJ also manipulated the true YXW through her idea into marrying him, but honestly it just an extreme version of arranged marriage and everything in tteom is so messed up that I can't care for it. I cannot cope with people shipping YXW and TTJ at all or blaming YBC and saying YXW and TTJ could've been happy without her. No they couldn't. The fault is on them, because they're acting like little kids and not communicating at all, even about things they could, especially YXW, because TTJ is not a functioning human so he could be seen as balloon that could explode anytime. (Oh and Lbfad fairy and devil might be not SeRiOuS enough or Orchid too annoying but at least they tried to communicate and understand eachother). What annoys me most is just how dumb LSS is, everyone always mentions her in smart FL recommendations but she's just really really dumb. It is lovely trying to understand and redeem TTJ, but after all the things he's done I expected at least that she understood TTJs messed up mental state before the Xiao Lin incident. From the start the revenge couldn't work because she just doesn't get TTJ. He will explode when he is betrayed, who doesn't matter, it's like LSS has forgotten it all. "She loves him, that's why she tries to give him a chance again and again" No, actually we see how much she also hates him, so why can't she try to see what she needs to do to kill him successfully, it's not like she's already manipulating him.
Oh, and getting to my favourite part: YBC. I absolutely love YBC as character, not Tian Nv she has nothing to do with it. YBC is great, I absolutely support her killing the grandma and whatever else and hate how evil she was presented as. I think most people forget that the grandma and everyone else basically watched how YXW made fun of and abused YBC. And again YBC and everyone else do not know that she's LSS. I personally would rage too if your long term abuser suddenly acted like a good person and everyone forgave her, especially her biggest victim (TTJ). I get it, the granny and everyone else just seem like an amazing family but we really shouldn't forget how they just ignored and excused everything YXW did. Of course they redeemed themselves after LSS came and treated YBC better, but would you be able to forgive them? would you? Of course stealing the love thread is bad, bit wouldn't you do that too?
Let's just turn everything around and act like YBC is the main character, she would play a much better anti-hero and protagonist than YXW, she'd be so much more relatable and understandable than YXW. So if you get YXW why not her?

Coming to my favourite part where all the novel readers talk about how mature tteom is and dark. And how it's about love for eachother and the world despite everything. Actually I just feel like it's pain porn and adults that can't communicate.
And I just felt it didn't give the right message about love. Personally I felt Lbfad did way better (personally, your opinion if you feel otherwise, please don't attack me), and I think it is comparable with tteom to everyone saying tteom is so mature and Lbfad light-hearted. The trauma for both the male leads and unwillingness to forgive but still wanting to be loved is comparable. Or how LSS and Orchid both start off innocent (we just don't see it for long with LSS because the story started right off with the massacre) and naive. There's actually a lot of parallels between them. In an edit (I think made by IQiyi summing up Lbfad) they wrote: Love is unconditional and for everyone, that love doesn't make sense you just love.
And that changed my view of Lbfad and tteom all over again. Love in tteom just felt incredibly conditional (for the people saying it's about loving the world, that also felt conditional).
There's a quote in Lbfad: 我爱苍生，也爱一人。(I love the world, but also one person)
And I feel it not only fits well for Orchid, but also LSS. And for the MLs it's the other way, because they love one person, for that person they also end up loving the world and dying for it. Orchid and DFQC both sacrificed themselves and their love is just so unconditional for both the world and each other. I couldn't feel that for LSS and TTJ. And I get, their relationship is more complicated, but I just wished that as CJM and LSS they could love eachother unconditionally, after everything was cleared, but they still didn't. CJM still seemed a bit obsessed with LSS (but better) while LSS still couldn't love him unconditional. And I get, it's hard, but I really felt like I'm missing a closure with her love for TTJ. We only saw her crying in the last episode, it would've been everything if she just tried to trust TTJ after he turned into the demon god a little bit longer, or just told him she loved him. She doesn't even need to trust him, just express her love, just like the scene where orchid asked DFQC if he truly never loved her. But no, there was no closure, just a two minute scene of LSS crying Infront of TTJs grave like she did with everyone else.
That aside, the plot hooked me from the start and I did like the entire cultivator arc except for the missing closure for LSS. It's just the miscommunication were really unbearable at some point.
Thanks for reading to everyone who did, this ended up way longer than I thought it would.

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