Pretty to look at, but full of wasted potential on frustrating immature characters.
Apart from the obvious eye-candy (I could stare at Song Wei Long for days), I was overall quite disappointed in this drama. It suffered from poor character development and contrived plot, which made me both addicted and frustrated at the same time.I wanted this show to be a mature romantic journey of growth, where two people who are inexperienced in their own ways find a balance in one other and get through societal pressures together. What I got instead was naïve main characters avoiding their problems and making poor life decisions, as well as frustrating secondary characters behaving very immaturely.
As an age-gap romance, the show had potential to explore some interested topics like going against social norms, workplace power dynamics, parental pressures and different types of marriages. These could have been interesting ways to keep our couple apart, however, these were only mentioned at a surface level and the potential was wasted.
Instead, the main source of conflict came from third-parties that manipulate our main characters or cause misunderstandings. The couples own insecurities lead them to run away from each-other or refuse to communicate their feelings. I'm not a fan of these kinds of reasons to keep the main couple apart, and kept watching in the hopes that they would learn from their repeated mistakes.
Unfortunately I don't feel like this happened, and didn't see much character growth or many people "finding themselves". In fact, I felt that several characters went backwards and became less confident or made worse decisions as the show went on. More emphasis was put on finding someone to love, than finding out who you really are, so that was a disappointing message.
I also disliked that the show glorified problematic behaviour, like the second-male-lead Lu Ming and his manipulation tactics, and that Fan Xing was okay with it. For the love of pasta, please don't take any relationship advice from any of these characters.
The only saving grace is Song Wei Long and his perfected "I find you cute, and I'm trying not to smile about it" look that he does so well. Unfortunately, there isn't as much interaction with the main couple as you would expect, which made me question why they even liked each other. The main characters have more screen time with secondary characters than with each other.
If you are looking for a sweet romance or mature journey of self-discovery then I think you will be disappointed on both fronts. You might enjoy this if you are a fan of Song Wei Long or any of the actors, however expect to be skipping a lot of scenes to get through the unnecessary number of episodes.
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arcs i loved
-the male lead and female lead
-the female leads family
-the cheating husband and friend
-the female lead and her twin brother/ 2 friends relationship
-the unwanted pregnancy
-the office lovers
-male leads family
- 2nd male lead and niece
arcs i hated and mostly skipped
-prof and high school student
- high school kids
-manipulating side of 2nd male lead.(it was cute at first then it became annoying)
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Cute romance
I didn't expect to enjoy this drama, because I saw Song Wei Long's flat acting in Untouchable Lovers and I also didn't think Victoria Song would be a good actress because she was a k-pop star. Surprisingly, their chemistry and older-woman-younger-man romance worked out very well.Things I enjoyed:
1. Romance of the main leads: Fanxing is 32 y/o while Yuan Song is 22 y/o. Fanxing is mature so she stays as reasonable as she can, yet her innocence in love and dating comes out when she deals with things such as jealousy and minding what outsiders think of her relationshup. Meanwhile, Yuan Song is young, yet he is determined to be a man in his own right. I'd describe this as a very enjoyable masculine and feminine dynamic.
2. Other storylines: Every else also had their own relationship troubles, such as Fanxing's twin brother's relationship with his younger female student, Fanxing's two older friends (one struggling to deal with a cheating husband and one being too headstrong to readily accept a traditional female role), etc.
3. Characters: I loved the main characters as well as side characters, each having their own story or personality. The closest to annoyance I felt was with the 2nd male lead, but his "annoyingness" does have its place in the drama and story line.
4. COMEDY: I can't tell if I'm childish, but I have to admit there were so many scenes where I laughed out loud at how ridiculous/petty the humor was, yet it felt like very realistic things I've seen in day-to-day life. It feels like the writer of this drama is actually quite in touch with the current generation and dating scene and could thus throw in jokes at appropriate moments.
Overall, I would recommend this if you're interested in that older-woman-younger-male romantic dynamic. The drama did a great job in showing it's quite reasonable while also being fun and light to watch.
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**SPOILER ALERT**I finished this drama in 2 days - watched till 3am in the morning #covoid19 time *_<
So first of all....letme talk about the characters. All the cast and characters were amazing. Both main leads were very well chosen from the director - APPROVED
He fan xiang - a women who hasnt been in a relationship within 30 years of her life. She finally finds her first love, someone who was younger than her by 10 years but she chooses to have a secret relationship with him because she's too scared of people's views. However bc she hasnt experienced being in a relationship and has so many insecurities about her relationship (how people see her and whether shes good enough or not), she chooses to let go of her true love and chooses someone who everyone thinks is "compatible" for her. Her character is very interesting. A character that teaches everybody to not care about what other people think about your relationship.....but think about how you feel and whether you love your other pair or not. She also teaches us that love is something you can't force. You can try your best to love someone but if you love someone else - you can't love no matter how much you try.
Song yuan. Let's just say......hes the most handsome guy I've seen in a drama recently lmao. Moving on.......he really suited this role. A young, fresh 20 year old that was ambitiously in love (i really wanted him as my bf >_<) with a 30 year old women. He didnt think much about what other people think, all he wanted was a loving relationship and a girlfriend that he could show off to everyone - opposite to he fan xiang. Which was what was interesting about this couple. She was mature and cared to much about what other people though while he was too 'young(?)' to care about what other people had to think, which is what created a flaw in their relationship.
I only talked about the 2 main leads bc they were the main characters that set up the plot and Itd take me all day to mention the rest lol but I also have to acknowledge zhang yu jian.......all i can say is that hes a fcken amazing actor. LOVED HIM
Within this drama......there were lots of relationships that I liked.
1) Ofc the relationship between the main leads. OMFG. They were so cuteee!!!!! A pretty 30 year old women and a handsome 20 year old man so madly in love. AHHHH!!!!! Was so jealous watching them lol.
2) He can yang and cai min min......I gotta say.....this couple was the cutest couple in the drama (sorry main leads), OMFRICKKKENNNN GOSHHH. The cringe LEVEL they gave me was unbeatable....gotta watch for yourself.
3) he fan xiang and he can yang. I really liked their sibling relationship..........they fight all the time, talk sht about each other all the time but during hard times, they're there for each other, care for each other and help each other out. So heart warming so their relationship was very special and nice.
Now I loved the characters role and acting so much so but the story line was a problem. TBH.....pretty much the first 20 episodes of this drama........it was SOOOOOOOOOOO BORINGGGG. I pretty much just skipped to the main leads most of the time (if you do skip........dont u dare skip the main lead scenes). However then after 20 episodes.......the story line gets interesting.........they have more meaning about life. However I did wish that the main couple had more loving scenes during the 2nd half of the drama.......there were but there weren't? ahahhah.........youll get what i mean when u start watching.
But overall......this was a exceptionally great, different and unique drama to watch. LOVED IT
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As the title has mentioned - Find Yourself is really suitable for this cdrama storyline as for a mature and independant lady/woman really needs to know what she is seeking for in a guy either a life partner or soul partner.
This story relates on the Asian Chinese single and mature lady hence it might not be applicable to Westerners single and mature lady as both has different culture, background, education, family brought up and friendship.
At the moment I feel this is one of the best modern cdramas which I have watched so far 'coz most modern cdramas have the concept of alien bf or gf or worst time travelling. Even though this is not really that good but based on this modern society and the increase of single and mature lady, I feel this story also touches on the concern and worries of how society accepting mature lady dating or marrying a much younger guy (age gap more than 5 years).
Overall the castings in this drama managed to bring up their roles very well especially Ye Lu Ming role how he goes after He Fang Xing and let go of her after much persuasion and effort put in. I remembered a line where Ye Lu Ming told He Fang Xing - "I am a businessman who if make an investment and does not has any ROI then I have no choice but to cut off this investment". Same goes to a relationship I have walked 99 steps and you just need to walk a step towards me and if you can't do it we call it a quit. Tbh. Ye Lu Ming is a good life partner 'coz he is mature, understandable, patience and most importantly financially stability. Whereas Yuan Song is like a soul partner a person who is young, vibrate, full of energy, romantic and financially he is still ok (his father's is Ye Lu Ming good friend & business associates).
If you are He Fang Xing who would you choose - life or soul partner? If you want to know the answer to this cdrama then I strongly suggest you to watch it. Every episode is rather interesting and funny except the final episode even though it's a happy ending.
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I found myself Song Wei Long
Find Yourself is strongly recommended, coming from China I've seen a lot of cliche romances and find them a bit too sweet. Now this drama has plenty of sweet moments, but what makes it worthwhile and a payoff is the struggles the main couple has to work through.The chemistry between Song Wei Long and Victoria Song is impressive, especially with the age gap in the drama being real in their lives also. Song Wei Long is really showing off his acting well in emotional scenes, he's sweet, youthful, and is a scene stealer. The man is also very handsome which is something to recommend by itself. Victoria Song is also a really good actress, and the emotional scenes she has she delivers. She's clearly a pro and I'm glad she's in a project like this.
The conflict in the main relationship makes this show interesting. Age gaps are explored in dramas, but it's really the main focus of conflict in this one and I like that. They are at different points in their lives and many people could judge them based off of stigma/prejiduce.
It's important to add that the dynamic is one being 'naive' while the other is more realistic. But in Find Yourself Song Wei Long's character has the development to understand her struggles and at a point he looks past the gap they have because he really loves Fan Xing. I really like how Yuan Song is able to take initiative and show her that he isn't as immature as she thinks at time... talking about a specific elevator scene. I hope to see more scenes like that as Fan Xing needs sometimes to just have moments like that where Yuan Song shows her he really is a man opposed to a colleague or kid.
Overall I love the dynamic, I love the production, Song Wei Long is really hot and Victoria Song is gorgeous
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BLAST OF COMEDY AND ROMANCE ! DON'T THINK JUST WATCH IT!
i want to thank director and story writer for making such amazing drama. this drama has unique comedy and amazing casts. i really loved watching it. This is the best rom com drama to watch. I loved every single character and their acting. omg!! THINGS THAT I DID NOT LIKED IN THIS SERIES:- That this drama is quite long. it can also be amazing drama with 32-36 episodes (STILL I DIDNT REGRETED WATCHING THIS DRAMA) • And the other reason is i skiped many scenes after episode 35 (im still okay with it because of casting and acting). Hope y'all enjoy this drama too and i also hope that review would be helpful for you :))Esta resenha foi útil para você?
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I mostly enjoyed watching this drama. As an adult is was nice to see more mature storylines, eg. the main couple sleeping together before marriage as a normal part of the relationship. This series was a rare find in that aspect that I was actually interested also in all side couples and their storylines. The first 20 episodes were also a bit painful to watch because of the problems the main characters had in their relationship and second male lead causing trouble, so I was all the time fearfully waiting when it would backfire. However the same episodes also contained the best, very very good romantic scenes, so I wouldn’t miss them. Especially as the main lead was probably the hottest Chinese actor I’ve ever seen. The second half of the series was lighter and funnier.I was happy with the actor’s performance, though I have to say even though the main lead was perfect in romantic scenes, he was not convincing when acting drunk. I have previously seen Zhang Yujian (He Canyang’s actor) in Coup The Foudre where he was very sombre and too old for the teenage parts, and I enjoyed very much seeing him in this role. All in all I think the people in this series were not as much stereotypes as in many Chinese dramas but more versatile and real. The production was also well done, there wasn’t too much repetition or unrealistic scenes. Some scenes were really funny and even though this is not a comedy, the humour fitted it very well.
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Canyang and Minmin were a cute couple, but I wish they would have made Canyang’s feelings for Minmin more clear. Now it felt like he was with her just because she was around, in which case he could have just as well been with someone who his parents don’t oppose.
I agree with the other reviews that the ending felt a bit rushed. It would have been nice to see He Fanxing and Yuan Song get back together earlier and see some scenes with their everyday life as a couple out in the open, with parents and friends.
It was nice that the fact that Yuan Song was from a rich family was not emphasized too much, and He Fanxing said that she hadn’t thought too much about it because it didn’t matter to him. I might have liked it better id he would have been from a normal family, but maybe the writers wanted it to be all about the age gap so Yuan Song couldn’t be inferior to Ye Luming in any other way.
I was a bit confused about the girl who came in the end, Luo something. Was she sent there by Yuan Song’s parents to seduce him or was it a coincidence? The way she behaved and the way the parents kept asking about her and Yuan Song made me think it was not that simple. In the story the reason for her existence was of course to make He Fanxing jealous and to show that Yuan Song didn’t care about anyone else, but as almost every other piece in this drama fell together and was realistic, this on bothered me.
The storyline with cheating and divorce was good. What she said about not being able to forget the words he had used to ridicule her were spot on.
This was not one of my favourite dramas but it kept me hooked and I will probably watch it again at some point.
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I will write a little of my review for this drama ...honestly I don't really like the story about the main character in this drama, this drama first gives an interesting beginning story between an independent woman who gets her love with a man who is much younger than her, and yes ... it all starts with things that sweet and cute and adorable and then changed after HFX (the female lead) began to feel fear of the gossip that would befall them because she was dating and fell in love with a man who was much younger than her YS. and the worst thing happened when she had to hide to date YS and then when YS was so brave to announce their status, She instead chose to break up with him, and the most stupid thing that HFX did was She was so happy and enjoyed every moment out with SML, YLM. even admitted him as her boyfriend in front of her friends, taking pictures together. silly .... for a woman who is dating, I read a lot of people blame YLM for stealing someone else's girlfriend ... YLM is wrong but what's more wrong is HFX, she can refuse to do all that but no, she accepts it and even really enjoyed it ....
I do not like the character that is not stable for that, after breaking up then going out with YLM with the reason to try a new relationship (and should not learn self-introspection of a relationship that just broke).
and after dating YLM, even jealous when YS is close to other women ... omg ... I really can't stand this woman's attitude ... and don't even dare to break up with YLM even though she doesn't love him and deceives her own feelings as well as hurting the feelings of others .... and her attitude when trying to catch up YS instead makes me feel she is disgusting after what she did.
the happy ending between HFX and YS actually didn't make a good impression for me, because of the attitude of the female lead that I really can't accept.
I gave a rating of 7.5 for this drama because I felt the stories of other actors besides the main actors like CX and CH, HCY and CMM, and other HFX friends were even more interesting than that ...
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Still love it, even the second time around.
I watched this while it was still airing, and recently rewatched, so I thought I’d write a review while the memory is still fresh.This one is definitely one of my favourites, from main couple to side characters/stories I loved everything and everyone (or hated who should be hated).
I loved the actor choices for all characters honestly, each actor fit their character perfectly.
The story develops quite quickly which is one of the things I liked about this Drama, at the point it starts to slow down the side stories kick in to make our time worth while.
I had and still have one problem with this Drama, and that is the second male lead. The first time I watched, it was because I felt he had too much screen time, causing the main story to pause for quite a while, however, as I rewatched that part didn’t bother me too much anymore, since I didn’t have to wait an entire week only to get an episode that contains more of the second male lead than the actual lead.
However while rewatching I realised how manipulative and unhealthy he and his interactions with the female lead actually were... if that is the definition of a good/ suitable man, then there’s definitely something wrong with society.
Overall I loved how this Drama showed different types and sides of Love and relationships, good parts as well as bad parts.
Definitely watch this, it’s worth the time.
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Major romance is centered around two 32 year old twins. The female lead called fang zin and her twin brother cang yang both falling in love with younger lovers with over 10 year age and how they were able to make the love work despite the the societal pressure from friends , family, neighbors and colleagues.
The male lead was obviously very young and because he looked really young his love for the female lead looked more like a lingering crush, although he did well with romance and skin-ship scenes, they were able to obviously portray that they preferred romance was with him and not luming which is why most viewers will concede to song yuan, however Luming was Obviously realistically capable and older.
The female lead was a bit lacking in character portrayal , she was meant to be an extremely efficient business administrator and acted in that capacity at work, but her trying to speak like she is an idiot in the name of acting cute will probably grate on your nerves, acting innocent and speaking cute was absolutely unnecessary for her age and in trying to make it look like she is new at love , given that song yuan didn’t like his female age mates at school for the same reason.
Canyang the leads make twin brother also really stole the show as he was a really funny character and I don’t think you can get through this drama without his character and that of the energetic and crafty Luming.
This drama had no devious and evil parents against their relationship. All the couple problems were self inflicted because they didn’t act brave for the love they believed in.
I want to see more of characters like canyang and Luming in cdramas, they brought so much comedy and life to their acting that made me finish 41 episodes else I would have dropped this drama because of the cute way Fanxing started trying to speak when she started her relationship with Song Yuan, it really dropped her character value to the regular stupid Typical female leads
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Cute cute so cute!!
Honestly have to say song weilong carried this whole drama. Plot is very simple and predictable so its really like your typical rom com but with incredibly cute couple moments! I sped through ep 1 to 25 but it gets kind of draggy from ep 25-30 ish onwards so they really could have kept the whole show shorter.I really really enjoyed watching the main couple and the minmin-prof couple! Their interactions are so cute (also hot at times) I am about to flip tables T_____T Some of the scenes really caught my heart and it's as though the age gap doesn't exist! Also, victoria looks younger and weilong looks older than they are so maybe that helped.
In conclusion, if you are looking for in depth plot then this is not for you but I would highly recommend this show to anyone out there who loves a good rom-com with very attractive and cute leads. May get a little draggy 3/4 into the show but hang on and you will enjoy the whole ride and squeal like there's no tomorrow!!
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